Self Consent is the radical act of tuning in to & showing up for your needs, desires, limits and boundaries. A powerful declaration:
I am on my side, I am on my side.



This course is all about learning how to tune in to the wisdom that your body already has.  It helps you to recognise the barriers to identifying your needs, desires and limits in many areas. It helps you to address these barriers so that you are more able to access choices that are in line with your values and take account of your needs and boundaries. 
“Sophia helped me to reframe events in my life so I could maintain healthier and happier relationships. I got better at identifying and expressing my needs, which made everything so much better.” 
Clara

This group course is for you if:

  • You know that you focus more on the needs and desires of everyone else & ignore your own.
  • You want learn how to identify emotions, needs and wants more quickly. 
  • You want to get better at centering yourself in your decision making.
  • You want to learn how to stop defaulting to 'yes' or 'no'. 
  • You want to stop 'Should's' ruling your life. 
  • You're willing to try out new ideas!

This group course is NOT for you if:

  • You want to suppress or ignore your emotions, needs and limits. 
  • You want to keep abandoning yourself & focusing on what everyone else needs.
  • You aren't comfortable around quirky queers and cultural renegades
  • You already have a deep and thorough understanding of your emotions, needs and limits.
  • You don't want to try new things that may make you feel a little uncomfortable sometimes
"I was really surprised to feel more comfortable than I have in any kind of therapy setting I’ve ever been in. I’ve been able to be really open and bring my full self to the skills group and I feel really very grateful for that."
Gray

Who we are at Love Uncommon


Love Uncommon was founded by Sophia Graham who is a sex and relationship geek trained in counselling, DBT & teaching. Sophia works with other coaches and therapists to provide courses on emotion regulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness and self consent.

At Love Uncommon our courses center quirky queers and cultural renegades. This means we often work with folks outside of the sexuality, gender and relationship mainstream. We take a rights not rescue approach to sex work; believe trans women are women, trans men are men and that non binary people aren't (men or women that is). We think platonic, romantic and sexual relationships all matter & that folks can have healthy relationships with or without them being monogamous (or vanilla for that matter).


This is what we will be covering!

Live classes are on the second Wednesday of the month at 7.00-8.30 UK time; 2.00-3.30 Eastern time and 11.00-12.30 Pacific. 

14th Jan - What is self-consent?
11th Feb - What gets in the way of self-consent?
11th March - What is embodied consent?
8th April - Why does slowing down matter?
13th May - What does radical acceptance have to do with self-consent?
10th June - How do we build an internal sense of safety?
8th July - How do physical boundaries support self-consent?
12th August - How do containing boundaries support self-consent? 
9th September - How do psychological boundaries support self-consent?
14th October - How do executed boundaries support self-consent? 
11th November - How does self-regulation support self-consent?
9th December - How does co-regulation support self-consent?
Addressing financial barriers

At LoveUncommon, we strive to make our courses financially accessible to those who need them. We appreciate it when folks can pay the full price of the course because it helps us to continue doing our work, but we can offer some low-cost spaces for folks who need them. If you are BIPOC or a member of the global majority, you can use code GM75 to access the lowest-cost spaces. If you are struggling to support yourself and in financial distress, I have three places for folks using code "low70" for 70% off the course cost. I have an additional 3 spots for code "low 60" for 60% off and "low 50" for 50% off. If you are on a low income but not in financial distress, you can use code "low40" to get 40% off. 

Join us!

£40 / $50 per month

  • Live monthly class on the second Wednesday of every at 7.30-9.00pm UK time; 2.30-4.00pm Eastern time and 11.30am-1.00pm Pacific.
  • Videos, podcasts, handouts and worksheets to support your learning.
  • A community to learn with you.

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“Sophia imparts a sense that no matter what’s happening, you have the inner strength and resources to handle it. Excellent at teaching practical coping strategies for difficult emotions, non-judgmental, practical and fun.”
Valerie